MB> Do you ever know by instinct where to touch a person
 MB> Non sexual I mean
 MB> I look at my friends and can tell where they are feeling pain 
 MB> Its like I'm looking at a pattern of sorts and when i run my hands
 MB> over the area I feel an electric current about two to three inches
 MB> above 
 MB> their skin then I feel a deep warmth coming from my hands  
 MB> and then they feel better ( most times ) 
 MB> My question is is this something that someone could teach me to 
 MB> control because I dont want to hurt someone by accident

There is a current which flows through all things, this is what has been
called life energy or Chi and which scientists have failed to fully explain. 
Many have learned to make use of it and to control it in our own bodies to a
certain extent both for good and bad.  May I suggest you pick up the
following book -

 Acupressure way of health: Jin Shin Do
written by Iona Marsaa Teeguarden

It does a great job of explaining how the energies flow through the body how
to control the flow of your own energies, how the flow of energy effects
someone and how to touch someone in a way which can help them positively or
if you prefere a passive approach how to touch without using your own energy
to negatively effect theirs.