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       Agreements
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       1. To explore being:
          A. best friends
          B. sexual and emotional lovers
          C. spiritual seeker partners
       
          For a period of [?] months and then reassess our commitments and
          agreements when the [?] months have passed.

       2. We to agree and commit to:

          0. Have an aids test before engaging in sexual intercourse.
             [I sincerely fear getting infected and one can be infected
             and not know it ! I have a female friend here in town dying of
             aids. A result of a one night stand sexual encounter when she was
             lonely and needful.]

          A. Have sexual activity only with each other. Unless we discuss and
             agree to acceptions to this. If you are bi-sexual and you have the
             need to have sexual activity with a woman sometimes, and 
             we agree this is acceptable to both of us,
             we agree that we will require the woman to have an aids test 
             before any sexual activity takes place with her and have her
             agree to only having sexual activity with us with us for a given
             time period. And that such  sexual activity will take place in our
             home and in our bed and will be shared as a threesome, all 3 of us
             sharing sexual loving together at the same time.
             [Fayetteville has the highest aids infection rate in the whole
             state.]
             [I have had 2 3some sexual experiences in my life and enjoyed 
             them very much at the time, however my strong preference is to be
             in a monogamous relationship at this time. I bring this up as I
             suspect you are bi-sexual and may have needs in that area and
             I truely want you to be happy and have your needs met!]

             Sexual activity being defined as kissing, rubbing up against each
             other, touching another's sexual places on the body, oral sex and
             actual sexual intercourse.

          B. to live in the same house / sleep in the same bed with each other.

          C. to share preparing and eating meals and other social activities
             together.

          D. to share bathing and massaging each other.

          E. to share in house keeping chores.

          F. to try to be fully open and honest with each other in all ways.

          G. to visit and live at the valley community land from time to time.
             [and that while there we both do some work for the community.]

          We agree that:

          1. To try to give each other our full love and devotion.

          2. to try to fully respect each other.

          3. to try to take care of each other in all possible ways.

          4. to not expect the other to be someone they are not
             or expect the other to change things in themselves
             to please the other.

          5. to have a short "truth session"with each other once a week to
             share and express things left unshared/unexpressed during 
             the week.

          6. to get together from time to time and reaccess our agreements
             and modify, or drop one if that is necessary.

          7. if either of us decide we what to leave the relationship, we will
             come to the other immediately and discuss things and come to an
             agreement about this.

          8. I will provide housing, food, clothing, pocket money and
             transportation for you.

          9. I will not expect or demand you to go out and work a job

          10. If you feel you must work a job, you may do so, however that 
              job will not be dancing at a club.

          [I would be very uncomfortable if my lady partner was doing this
          and I seriously believe that the energy at the clubs is disruptive
          to relationships, the chanch of getting "involved" with another
          outside our relationship is higher if working in a club, and those
          here in this town working as dancers likely have a higher possibility
          of having a disease.]

          6. to take care of each other in all possible ways.

          7. to have a short "truth session"with each other once a week to
             share and express things left unshared/unexpressed during 
             the week.

          8. to get together from time to time and reaccess our agreements
             and modify, or drop one if that is necessary.

          We will need to discuss all the above and add things we also agree to
          on to this....what I have written here basicly are my ideas on this
          and I need to hear your thoughts on these things.