Tantric Sex                                             SEXTECH.TXT
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       --The Yoni Massage-The Lingam Massage-Tantric Polarity Process--
       by Jeffery Tye
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       BACKGROUND:

       The intent of Tantric/Sacred Sexuality is to experience and merge with
       the Divine (God/Goddess/All-That-Is) using sexual energy as the fuel or
       vehicle. Sexual energy is the most powerful force within the human body
       and can lead to profound spiritual experiences accompanied by intense
       physical pleasure and bliss. Tantrikas use their sexual energy with
       awareness, love and respect, for themselves and their partner.

       Tantra views everything as energy, vibrating at different rates and
       manifesting in a myriad of ways (e.g., matter, space, time, forces,
       people, animals, objects, etc.). Harmony and peace are the result of
       energies being in balance -- life flows without restriction. Often, due
       to various reasons, the energies that make up the human body become
       unbalanced. This results in ill health, sleeplessness, sluggishness,
       pain, distraction, and many other unwanted conditions including
       unsatisfactory sexual performance. The goal of the Tantric Polarity
       Process is to bring the body into a balanced state before engaging in
       sexual activity. The benefits are many, including deep relaxation
       (important for Tantric High-Sex), heightened sexual response and better
       health. The process builds trust and intimacy between partners, and is
       easy to do. From the Tantric/Yogic perspective there are many energy
       centers in the body. The seven primary psychoenergetic vortices are
       referred to as Chakras (loosely translated as <Wheels of Light>), each
       having a specific function in the body. The most important one is the
       Heart Chakra. There are three Chakras above and three Chakras below the
       Heart Chakra. The upper three have to do with intellect and
       spirituality. The three lower Chakras deal with base human needs and
       emotions. The Heart Chakra balances the Spirit with the flesh. This
       Chakra is the seat of unconditional love and divine grace. (If you
       aren't already aware of these energy centers or for more detailed
       information, I suggest you acquire one of the many excellent books
       about the Chakras and Yogic philosophy. Meta- physical bookstores are a
       reliable source for these books. <Wheels of Light> by Anodea is one
       title to check out.)

       PROCEDURE: Allow 45 minutes for this process. Each step takes about 5
       minutes. Allow yourself to relax and take your time. Deep belly
       breathing helps with relaxation. A shower or bath is recommended before
       this process.

       The receiver is to relax, breathe deeply and receive. The giver is to
       be of service to their partner. This is an intimate process done with
       love and respect. The giver will be placing their hands on various
       parts of the receiver's body. This is done SLOWLY, with awareness,
       avoiding jerky movements.

       The receiver is to be naked, laying flat on their back, with legs flat
       and spread comfortably apart. A rolled up towel or pillow can be placed
       under the neck for comfort. The receiver may become cold during the
       process and they may want to have a light blanket or sheet placed over
       their body.

       The giver is to sit cross legged, on the RIGHT side of the receiver,
       with knees barely touching the receiver's body. The giver orients
       themselves in such a way as to be able to reach the receiver's genitals
       with the RIGHT hand and the top of the receiver's head with the LEFT
       hand. IT IS VERY IMPORTANT for the giver to find a comfortable position
       where they WILL NOT HAVE TO MOVE their body during the process. Both
       giver and receiver spend about 5 minutes focusing on deep, relaxed
       breathing. THIS IS A VERY IMPORTANT STEP. Begin each breath with a
       relaxed belly. Let your thoughts and concerns fade away.

       The GIVER rubs their hands together, creating heat. Shake the hands,
       away from the receiver's body, and flick the fingers as if energy were
       sparking off your fingers. Do this several times. Among other things,
       this energizes your hands and prepares them for touching the receiver's
       body.

       The giver places their LEFT (negatively charged) hand, gently, on the
       receivers Heart Chakra. This is located in the center of the chest,
       between the nipples. You are touching the most intimate and beautiful
       part of the receiver. This is their center and seat of Divine essence.
       Become aware of their childlike innocence as your hand rests here.

       The giver places their RIGHT (positively charged) hand, gently on the
       receivers Root Chakra. This is located between the anus and genitals.
       It is clinically referred to as the Perineum. This is the foundation of
       survival and human needs (food, shelter, money, etc.). It is also the
       place where a powerful force (Kundalini) emanates from.

       The giver keeps their hands in place for 5 minutes. Just relax, keep
       breathing deeply, and visualize powerful energies coming from the earth
       and the universe, flowing through your body and streaming out your
       hands into the receiver's body. Become aware of your healing powers.
       Keeping your LEFT hand on the receiver's heart, gently move your RIGHT
       hand to their genitals. If the receiver is a woman, allow your fingers
       to contact the clitoris and vulva. If the receiver is a man, cup your
       hand over the testicles and penis (Lingam). This is the seat of their
       sexual desire and procreative power. Keep your hands in this position
       for 5 minutes. Occasionally, gently rock your RIGHT hand to awaken this
       Chakra. The receiver will likely experience sexual arousal. This
       indicates that energy is moving in the body. Move your RIGHT hand to
       just below the receiver's navel, the center of their personal power.
       Keep your LEFT hand on their heart Chakra. Do this for 5 minutes. You
       are balancing the lower Chakras, that deal with money, sex and power
       issues, with their sacred center, the heart. You are bringing infinite
       love and wisdom into their human life form. Move your RIGHT hand on top
       of your LEFT hand. Keep both hands on the receiver's heart for 5
       minutes. Imagine all that you have to give, as friend, healer and
       lover, flowing from your hands into their heart.

       Place your RIGHT hand on the receiver's heart and move your LEFT hand
       to their throat. Be gentle, do not press down and just let your hand
       rest gently on the throat Chakra . This is the source of their creative
       expression and communication. Remain here for 5 minutes. With the RIGHT
       hand in place on the receiver's heart, move the LEFT hand to their
       forehead. This is the home of their intellect and psychic powers.
       Remain at this center for 5 minutes. Move the LEFT hand to the top or
       crown of the receiver's head. Keep the RIGHT hand on their heart. The
       Crown Chakra is their connecting point to the Divine and channels
       spiritual energy. Stay in this position for 5 minutes. Gently, slowly
       and with total awareness, remove your hands from the receiver's body.
       At this point they will most likely be in a deeply relaxed and highly
       sensitized state. Withdraw your hands in a manner that they barely
       notice it. Slowly, silently, move your body away from theirs and stand
       up. Walk away from them, shake your hands, and flick your fingers
       again. You may leave them in this state (lucid dreaming or meditative)
       or you can begin another sexual activity. The Lingam Massage or Yoni
       Massage is most effective after this process. Foreplay, including
       cunnilingus or fellatio, works very well, as the receiver is in a
       heightened state of responsiveness at this point. Have fun!


       Tantric Polarity Process*The Yoni Massage*The Lingam Massage
       by Jeffery Tye

       My wife and I have practiced Tantra/Sacred Sex for several years and
       have received much joy from the techniques and processes. One of my
       wife's favorite and frequently requested sexual activity is the Yoni
       Massage. It has greatly expanded our sex life, brought us closer and
       has given me a greater appreciation of women. We've taught the
       technique to many of our friends and they too have enjoyed good results
       from it. I offer it here and hope it enhances your sex life. Enjoy.

       BACKGROUND INFO:

       Yoni (pronounced YO-NEE) is a Sanskrit word for the vagina that is
       loosely translated as <Sacred Space> or <Sacred Temple.< It's meaning
       and use is an alternate perspective from the Western view of the female
       genitals (i.e., Pussy, Cunt, Twat, etc., words which may or may not be
       complimentary depending on the intent of their usage). In Tantra, the
       Yoni is seen from a perspective of love and respect. This is especially
       helpful for men to learn.

       The purpose of the Yoni Massage is to create a space for the woman (the
       receiver) to relax, and enter a state of high arousal and experience
       much pleasure from her Yoni. Her partner (the giver) experiences the
       joy of being of service and witnessing a special moment. The Yoni
       Massage can also be used as a form of safer sex (when latex gloves are
       used) and is an excellent activity to build trust and intimacy. Some
       massage and sex therapists use it to assist women to break through
       sexual blocks or trauma.

       The goal of the Yoni massage is not orgasm. Orgasm is often a pleasant
       and welcome side effect. The goal is simply to pleasure and massage the
       Yoni/vagina. From this perspective both receiver and giver can relax,
       and not have to worry about achieving something. When orgasm does occur
       it is usually more expanded, more intense and more satisfying. Orgasm
       is allowed to happen or not happen. It is also helpful for the giver to
       not expect anything in return. Just allow the receiver to enjoy the
       massage and to relax into herself afterwards. Of course, other sexual
       activity may follow but it should be entirely the receiver's choice.
       This perspective will build greater intimacy and trust, and will
       greatly expand your sexual horizons.

       PREPARATION: Bathing is always helpful as it relaxes both the receiver
       and giver. A quiet space is desirable with pleasing music, candles,
       pillows, etc., or whatever makes the participants relax and feel safe.
       Allow yourself enough time and do not hurry through the process. Go to
       the bathroom before beginning the massage. The best results will occur
       when the bowels and bladder are empty and you will avoid the
       unnecessary experience of interrupting the massage to go to the
       bathroom. Connect with your partner by hugging, holding, eye gazing
       (looking into each other's eyes for an extended time), or whatever
       brings you to a place of safety and relaxation.

       PROCEDURE: Have the receiver lie on her back with pillows under her
       head so she can look down at her genitals and up at her partner
       (giver). Place a pillow, covered with a towel, under her hips. Her legs
       are to be spread apart with the knees slightly bent (pillows or
       cushions under the knees will also help) and her genitals clearly
       exposed for the massage.

       The giver sits cross-legged between the receivers' legs. The giver may
       wish to sit on a pillow or cushion. This position allows full access to
       the Yoni and other parts of the body. Before contacting the body, begin
       with deep, relaxed breathing. Both giver and receiver should remember
       to keep breathing deeply, slowly and with relaxation during the entire
       process. The giver will gently remind the receiver to start breathing
       again if the receiver stops or takes shallower breaths. Deep breathing,
       not hyperventilating, is very important here. Gently massage the legs,
       abdomen, thighs, breasts, etc., to get the receiver to relax and for
       the giver to prepare for touching the Yoni.

       Pour a small quantity of a high-quality oil or lubricant on the mound
       of the Yoni. Pour just enough so that it drips down the outer lips and
       covers the outside of the Yoni. (Several excellent sexual lubricants
       are available for this. Many lingerie shops, sex toy shops, sex
       magazines, etc., offer these safe lubricants. My favorite is Yoni Play
       from Looking Good Enterprises.) Begin gently massaging the mound and
       outer lips of the Yoni. Spend some time here and do not rush. Relax and
       enjoy giving the massage. Gently squeeze the outer lip between the
       thumb and index finger, and slide up and down the entire length of each
       lip. Do the same thing to the inner lips of the Yoni/vagina. Take your
       time.

       The receiver can massage her own breasts or may just relax and continue
       breathing deeply.It is helpful for giver and receiver to look into each
       other's eyes as much as possible. The receiver can tell the giver if
       the pressure, speed, depth, etc., needs to be increased or decreased.
       Limit your speaking and focus on the pleasurable sensations. (It is my
       experience that too much talking gets one out of their feelings and
       diminishes the effects.) Gently stroke the clitoris with clockwise and
       counter-clockwise circles. Gently squeeze it between thumb and index
       fingers. Do this as a massage and not to get the receiver off. The
       receiver will undoubtedly become very aroused but continue to encourage
       her to just relax and breathe. Slowly and with great care, insert the
       middle finger of your right hand into the Yoni (there is a reason for
       using the right hand as opposed to the left. It has to do with polarity
       in Tantra.). Very gently explore and massage the inside of the
       Yoni/vagina with this finger. Take your time, be gentle, and feel up,
       down and sideways. Vary the depth, speed and pressure. Remember, this
       is a massage and you're nurturing and relaxing the Yoni. With your palm
       facing up, and the middle finger inside the Yoni, move the middle
       finger in a <come here> gesture or crook back towards the palm. You
       will contact a spongy area of tissue just under the pubic bone, behind
       the clitoris. This is the G-spot or in Tantra, the sacred spot (there
       are many excellent books that go into detail about this area). Your
       partner may feel as if they have to urinate or it may be painful or
       pleasurable. Again vary the pressure, speed and pattern of movement.
       You can move side to side, back and forth, or in circles with your
       middle finger. You can also insert the finger that's between your
       middle finger and pinky. Check with your partner first before sticking
       two fingers into them. Most women should have no problem and will enjoy
       the increased stimulation from two fingers. Take your time and be very
       gentle. You may use the thumb of the right hand to stimulate the
       clitoris as well. An option to try if the receiver wants it is to
       insert the pinky of the right hand into her anus. Ask her first and do
       not insert your pinky into her Yoni/vagina after it has been in her
       anus. Use lubrication and be very gentle. (In Tantra, it is said that
       when your pinky is in her anus, the next finger and middle finger in
       her Yoni/vagina, and your thumb on her clitoris, <You are holding one
       of the mysteries of the universe in your hand.<) So, what is your left
       hand doing all this time? You can use it to massage the breasts,
       abdomen, or clitoris. If you massage the clitoris it's usually best to
       use your thumb in an up down motion, with the rest of your hand resting
       on and massaging the mound. The dual stimulation of right and left
       hands will provide much pleasure for the receiver. I do not recommend
       using your left hand to touch your own genitals because it may take
       your focus off the receiver. Remember, this massage is for her pleasure
       and much of the benefit comes from not only the physical stimulation
       but the intent as well. Continue massaging, trying different speeds,
       pressures and motions. Keep breathing and looking into each other's
       eyes. She may have powerful emotions come up and may cry. Just keep
       breathing and be gentle. Many women have been sexually abused and need
       to be healed. A giving, loving and patient partner can be of great
       value to her. If she has an orgasm, keep her breathing, and continue
       massaging if she wants. More orgasms may occur, each gaining in
       intensity. In Tantra this is called <riding the wave.> Many women can
       learn how to be multi-orgasmic with the Yoni Massage and a very patient
       partner.

       Keep massaging until she tells you to stop. Very slowly, gently, and
       with respect, remove your hands. Allow her to just lay there and enjoy
       the afterglow of the Yoni massage. Cuddling or holding is very soothing
       as well. As you learn to master the Yoni Massage your sex life will be
       greatly enriched and you will learn a great deal about feminine
       sexuality. There is a similar massage for men called the Lingam
       Massage. Lingam is a Sanskrit word for the penis that means, <Wand of
       Light.

       The Lingam Massage by Jeffery Tye

       BACKGROUND INFO:
       The Sanskrit word for the male sexual organ is Lingam (pronounced
       LING-AHM, [LING rhymes with sing]) and is loosely translated as <Wand
       of Light.> It's meaning is different in intention from the typical
       Western view of the penis (i.e., Cock, Prick, Dong, Dick, etc., words
       that may come from a limited perspective, depending on the intent of
       their usage). In Tantra/Sacred Sexuality, the Lingam is respectfully
       viewed and honored, a <Wand of Light> that channels creative energy and
       pleasure.

       The purpose of the Lingam Massage is to create a space the receiver to
       relax, and receive expanded pleasure from his Lingam. His partner (the
       giver) experiences the joy of facilitating and witnessing the man
       surrendering to his softer, gentler side. The Lingam Massage can be
       used as a form of safer sex (when latex gloves are used) and is an
       excellent process to build trust and intimacy. It is often used to help
       men heal from negative sexual conditioning and trauma. Orgasm is not
       the goal of the Lingam massage although it is often a pleasant and
       welcome side effect. The goal is to massage the Lingam, also including
       testicles, perineum and Sacred Spot (the equivalent to the female
       G-spot), and allow the man to surrender to a form of pleasure he may
       not be used to. From this perspective both receiver and giver relax
       into the massage. Men need to learn to RELAX and RECEIVE. Traditional
       sexual conditioning has the man in a doing and goal oriented mode. The
       Lingam Massage allows the man to experience his softer, more receptive
       side and experience pleasure from a non-traditional perspective.

       PREPARATION: Take a relaxing bath or shower. Take your time and breathe
       deeply. Conscious, relaxed breathing will take you out of your mental
       process and will get you more into your feelings. Relax your belly and
       let go of the tension that most of us hold there. Go to the bathroom
       before beginning the massage. The best results occur when the bowels
       and bladder are empty. Let go of your thoughts and connect with your
       partner through hugging, holding, eye gazing (looking into each other's
       eyes for an extended time), bringing both of you to a place of
       relaxation and trust.

       PROCEDURE: Have the receiver lie on his back with pillows under his
       head so he can look up at his partner (giver). Place a pillow, covered
       with a towel, under his hips. His legs are to be spread apart with the
       knees slightly bent (pillows or cushions under the knees will also
       help) and his genitals clearly exposed for the massage. The giver sits
       cross-legged between the receivers' legs. Before contacting the body,
       begin with deep, relaxed breathing. Gently massage the legs, abdomen,
       thighs, chest, nipples, etc., to get the receiver to relax. Remind the
       receiver to breathe deeply and to sink deeper into relaxation. Pour a
       small quantity of a high-quality oil (or water-based lubricant when
       using latex gloves) on the shaft of the Lingam and testicles. Begin
       gently massaging the testicles, taking care to not cause pain in this
       sensitive area. Massage the scrotum gently, causing it to relax.
       Massage the area above the Lingam, on the pubic bone. Massage the
       Perineum, the area between the testicles and anus. Take your time. You
       are giving a massage to an often neglected area of the body. Massage
       the shaft of the Lingam. Vary the speed and pressure. Gently squeeze
       the Lingam at the base with your right hand, pull UP and slide off and
       then alternate with your left hand. Take your time doing this, right,
       left, right, left, etc. Then, change the direction by starting the
       squeeze at the head of the Lingam/penis and then sliding DOWN and off.
       Again, alternate with right and left hands. Massage the head of the
       Lingam as if you are using an orange juicer. Massage all around the
       head and shaft. In Tantra there are many nerve endings on the Lingam
       that correspond to other parts of the body. It is said many ailments
       can be cured by receiving a good Lingam Massage.

       NOTE: The Lingam may or may not go soft as you perform this technique.
       Do not worry if it doesn't get hard again. You will probably find that
       it will get hard, then go soft, get hard again, etc., which is a highly
       desirable Tantric experience, like riding a wave, bobbing up and down.
       Hardness and Softness are two ends of the pleasure spectrum.

       If it appears that the receiver is going to ejaculate, back off,
       allowing the Lingam to soften a little before resuming the massage. Do
       this several times, coming close to ejaculation, and then backing off.
       Remember, the goal is not orgasm in and of itself. Men can learn the
       art of ejaculatory mastery and control by coming close to ejaculation
       and then backing off on the stimulation. Deep breathing is key here and
       will soften the urge to ejaculate. Eventually ejaculatory mastery will
       allow you to make love as long as you want and you can become
       multi-orgasmic without losing a drop of semen. Orgasm and ejaculation
       are two different responses that you can learn to separate. The result
       is a very expanded sex life. Find and massage the male Sacred Spot.
       There are two ways to do this.

       One is by finding the spot midway between the testicles and anus. There
       is a small indentation about the size of a pea or maybe larger. Be
       gentle and push inward. He will feel the pressure deep inside and it
       may be intensely painful at first. Eventually, as this area is worked
       on and softened, he will be able to expand his orgasms and master
       ejaculatory control. You can massage his Lingam with your right hand
       and massage his Sacred Spot with your left hand. Try pushing in on this
       spot when he nears ejaculation. It is aptly named the Million Dollar
       Point in Taoism.

       The other way to access the Sacred Spot is through the anus. Many men,
       especially heterosexual men, are uncomfortable at first as a result of
       negative sexual conditioning. Be careful here and use lubrication. The
       key is to go slow and be very gentle. Make sure he is breathing as you
       slip a finger from your left hand into the anus about an inch or so.
       Then crook the finger back in a <come here> gesture. You will feel the
       prostate gland. Vary the pressure and speed of massage. He may want
       stimulation of the Lingam as you massage the Sacred Spot. Back off on
       the Lingam as he approaches orgasm and increase the pressure on the
       Sacred Spot. Sometimes the man may have strong emotions come up during
       access to the Sacred Spot. He may cry and remember a traumatic event
       from his past. You, the giver, are in a place of trust and intimacy.
       Allow him to feel his emotions and be very loving, not trying to
       console or fix him, just let him feel whatever he needs to. Encourage
       him to scream, cry, moan, sob, if it feels appropriate. Be the best
       friend and healer he could have in that moment.

       ENDING THE MASSAGE: If he chooses to let go and ejaculate, encourage
       him to breathe deeply during the orgasm. It will blow his mind,
       especially if he has come close and held back at least SIX times before
       ejaculating. Holding back six times charges up the sexual battery with
       tremendous energy. It is then his choice as to where he wants to send
       this energy -- out with their ejaculate (the prevailing paradigm) or
       inward for other uses (men who master ejaculation are able to channel
       this energy into other areas of their being). When he feels complete
       with the massage gently remove your hands and allow him to lie there
       quietly. You may want to snuggle up together or you can leave the room
       and let him drift off into a meditative state. Allow him to fully
       experience his childlike innocence and magnificent male beauty. Have
       fun with this technique and share it with your friends and loved ones.