LOVE, SERVE, AND REMEMBER-ABOUT MAN/WOMAN RELATIONSHIPS          LOVESERV.TXT
*******************************************************************************
                    LOVE-----SERVE-----REMEMBER

IN MY HUMBLE OPINION THE PRIMARY PURPOSE OF A BEING A HUMAN BEING IS TO BECOME
ONE WITH GOD. AND BECOMING ONE WITH AN OPPOSIT SEX PARTNER IS A MAJOR DOORWAY 
TO THAT TOTAL UNION WITH GOD.

LOVE:

THE PRIMARY GOAL OF A MAN/WOMAN RELATION NEEDS TO BE BECOMING ONE WITH 
EACH OTHER.

OPEN YOUR HEARTS FULLY TO EACH OTHER.

DESOLVE AWAY YOUR FEARS AND SHARE YOUR DEEPEST SECRETS WITH EACH OTHER.

ALLOW YOURSELFS TO BE FULLY VULNERABLE TO EACH OTHER.

NURTURE EACH OTHER.

EXPRESS YOUR LOVE VERBALLY AND PHYSICALLY OFTEN.

EXPRESS YOUR EMOTIONS TO EACH OTHER WHEN YOU ARE EXPERIENCING THEM.

ALWAYS FOCUS ON THE POSITIVE/BEAUTIFUL ASPECTS OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP.

SERVE:

SERVING EACH OTHER IS SERVING GOD.

BEING OF LOVING SERVICE TO EACH OTHER ASSISTS CREATING A UNITY THAT IS AN 
ENTITY THAT IS GREATER THAN THE SUM OF YOU BOTH.

MAKE YOUR PARTNERS HAPPYNESS A PRIMARY GOAL IN YOUR LIFE.

SUPPORT EACH OTHER IN THE CREATION OF INTERNAL GROWTH AND CHANGE.

TRY TO DO SOMETHING EACH AND EVERY DAY FOR YOUR PARTNER THAT BRINGS THEM JOY,
HAPPYNESS, AND CREATES A SMILE TO THEIR FACE.

REMEMBER:

YOUR PARTNER IS A DIRECT MANIFESTATION OF GOD IN PHYSICAL FORM AND SO ARE YOU.
AND BECOMING ONE WITH YOUR PARTNER LEADS TO BECOMING ONE WITH GOD.

YOUR PARTNER CHOSE YOU TO BE THEIR BEST FRIEND, LOVER AND PARTNER ABOVE
ALL OTHERS.

THAT BOTH YOU AND YOUR PARTNER DESERVE RESPECT.

THAT YOU AND YOUR PARTNER ARE NO LONGER THE PERSONS WHO HAD THE THOUGHTS AND 
DID THE ACTIONS THAT OCCURED IN YOUR PASTS, YOU BOTH HAVE GROWN, CHANGED AND
BECOME MORE THAN YOU WERE THEN. 

TO FORGIVE YOURSELF FOR YOUR PAST IGNORANCES, MISTAKES, THOUGHTS AND 
ACTIONS AND TO FORGIVE YOUR PARTNER FOR THEIRS.

THAT BRINGING UP AND OR FOCUSING ON PAST MISTAKES OR DIFFICULTIES IS NEVER
BENIFICIAL TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP.

THAT WHEN ONE'S HEART IS FULL OF COMPASSION ANGER CAN NOT OCCUR.

THAT THE PRESENT MOMENT IS THE ONLY TRUE REALITY HERE.
THAT THE PAST IS DEAD, AND NOTHING CAN CHANGE IT.
THAT THE FUTURE IS ONLY A DREAM THAT HAS NOT MANIFESTED YET.
TO TRY TO LIVE FULLY IN MOMENT, EACH MOMENT AND TO RESPOND TO THE PRESENT
SITUTATION, NOT FROM YOUR PAST EXPERIENCES.

TO TELL EACH OTHER WHAT YOU NEED AND WANT INSTEAD OF EXPECTING YOUR PARTNER
TO BE ABLE TO READ YOUR MIND.

TO TRY TO NEVER TAKE EACH OTHER FOR GRANTED.

TO TRY TO HAVE AS FEW EXPECTATIONS OF EACH OTHER AS POSSIBLE.
...............................................................................
METHODS TO ASSIST YOUR RELATIONSHIP TO CONTINUE TO GROW DEEPER:

INCREASE YOUR RELATIONSHIP TO GOD AND TO EACH OTHER BY SHARING SPIRITUAL
PRACTICES TOGETHER EACH DAY, BY MEDITATING, PRAYING, SINGING OR CHANTING
TOGETHER.

CREATE A STRUCTURE FOR YOUR RELATIONSHIP BY DEFINING:

THE GOALS OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
THE FREEDOMS IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
THE BOUNDRIES OF THOSE FREEDOMS.
EACH OTHER'S RESPONSIBILITIES IN THE RELATIONSHIP.
YOUR PARTNERS PERSONAL NEEDS.
YOUR PERSONAL NEEDS.
THE INTENDED DURATION OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
WHAT IS UNACCEPTABLE BEHAVIOR IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP.

REVIEW THE GOALS OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP AND IT'S STRUCTURE WITH YOUR PARTNER 
AND RECOMMIT TO THEM FROM TIME TO TIME.

JOIN TOGETHER WITH YOUR PARTNER AND OTHERS IN SOME GREAT TASK OF BENEFIT TO 
OTHERS BESIDE YOU, YOUR PARTNER AND YOUR BLOOD RELATED FAMILIES.

TAKE ANY STEPS NECESSARY TO OVERCOME DANGER TO SELF AND THOSE DEPENDENT ON YOU.
DISPERSE SITUATIONS, PEOPLE, MATTERS OUTSIDE THE RELATIONSHIP WHICH COULD LEAD
TO DISHARMONY, SORROW AND OR WOUNDS.

RETREAT TO YOUR PARTNERS ARM'S WHEN THE STORMS OF LIFE CAUSE DIFFICULTIES.

HAVE PERSONAL DISIPLINE OF YOUR THOUGHTS, ACTIONS AND DEEDS.

USE GENTLENESS TO UN-DAM YOUR VITAL ENERGY, DESOLVE DIVISIVE EGOTISM, AND
FREE ONE'S SELF FROM SELFISHNESS AND SELF-CENTEREDNESS.

           TODAY IS THE FIRST DAY OF THE REST OF YOUR LIFE !

                    LOVE-----SERVE-----REMEMBER !

-- ganashyam das